I heard Dr. Gary Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages, tell about the way he learned to make the principle of servanthood practical in his marriage. As he struggled through a difficult time, he discovered that he lacked an attitude of servanthood. As he puts it, “I had made demands of my wife. I had expected her to make me happy.” His marriage began to change when he asked his wife these questions:
- How can I help you?
- How can I make your life easier?
- How can I be a better husband to you?
Their marriage changed when he let her teach him how he could serve her. It did not happen overnight, because the pain had been there too long, but change did occur.
Today, consider asking your spouse one of these questions. Then, do it with a loving heart.
Let’s talk: How has a servant’s heart made a difference in your marriage? Please leave a comment below.
*The above marriage tip is an excerpt from Tools for a Great Marriage by Willie Batson.